Couples often come to see me with communication problems. Some know it from the start, others open with something more specific: the same argument on repeat, the silence that follows it, the sense that nothing actually gets resolved no matter how the conversation starts. "Communication problems" is usually the label that gets reached for afterwards, when trying to explain what's wrong to your partner, a friend, a GP, or yourself.

The problem is often not being able to tolerate the discomfort of what you are hearing your partner saying. This leads to defensive, angry reactions and escalation where neither partner feels heard or understood.

Psychosexual therapy is a talk-based therapy that helps you (and a partner if attending with you) understand and work through sexual difficulties or to reinvigorate a sex life that has become dull, or lost to ‘room mates’ syndrome. Sex is a multidimensional part of human experience which includes the psychological, physical and relational realms and for some couples also the spiritual. If you're struggling with a sexual problem, or lack of sex, you're far from alone. Relate, the UK relationship charity, found that more than a third of British people have experienced a sexual problem at some point in their lives. Yet despite how common these issues are, sex remains one of the hardest things to talk about, even with a partner.

For a lot of couples, sex doesn't end with a fight. It just stops. Touch becomes rare. Initiation becomes risky. One of you stops trying because the cost of being turned down has got too high, and the other reads the absence as relief. You still love each other; that's part of what makes it so confusing. You have become room mates.

Holidays promise rest and reconnection — but too often we bring our work with us, emotionally and digitally. This blog explores how to truly unplug, reconnect with your partner or family, and navigate the inevitable emotional bumps along the way. With practical tools like the Daily Temperature Reading and tips for managing intimacy, conflict, and expectations, it’s a guide to making holidays more meaningful — and maybe even a little holy.

Negativity and negative emotion can be a major cause of upheaval in relationships. This has certainly been true in my relationship. This article will discuss why it can be a problem and how we can manage it better. I will give some suggestions for you to implement right away, next time you hear a negative or angry comment.

‘Two wolves live within each of us’ said the old Cherokee grandmother to his grandson. ‘These wolves are fighting. They want different things. One wolf hungers for all that goes wrong and thrives on hatred and strife. The other has an appetite for the things that go right and flourishes on love and beauty’. The grandson asks, ‘which wolf wins the fight?’